a piece of advice

that's meant to be taken rather quite seriously, especially for those of us young bloods who think, or dont think, about the decisions they are making everyday. marriage is one thing, but having a child--that's quite another. and i use this forum to tell you, to beg you, to PLEASE consider that having a child means that everything you say do think feel WILL have an effect on your offspring. they will become crazy. they will be unable to deal with it all. they will struggle, they will cry, they will ruin every good thing they have, all because they hate you. all because you didn't teach them. you didn't love enough or you loved too much and inflicted pain, restrictions, turmoil. because you stayed in an unhappy marriage. because you watched their weight since they were 10 years old. because you never thought they were making good choices. because you always tried to make their choices for them. because you never said you were sorry. because you never trusted them. hell, you never trusted yourself.

and i think thats what i mean here. don't ever have a kid because you wanna play house. don't have a kid because you're bored, dont have a kid because you're christian, don't have a kid unless you are SURE that there is nothing sitting deep inside that you have left to resolve. if you arent sure whether you married the right person, then figure it out. if you wanna see the world, stop making excuses and do it. live. meditate. know yourself. resolve your issues. because maybe its too late for you, maybe its going to be a long road to recovery. but the kid...there's still hope for the unborn child.